I (29/f) broke up with my bf (28/m) of 4 months because he wouldn't help an overpowered woman, but now want advice.

2021.10.22 22:26 kryptos1919 I (29/f) broke up with my bf (28/m) of 4 months because he wouldn't help an overpowered woman, but now want advice.

Recently in the news, a woman was brutally taken advantage of at a train station or whatever in Philadelphia. At least 10 bystanders stood by for SEVERAL minutes doing nothing (not even calling the police, finally a conductor noticed it and called), and some even recorded the horrific assault as if it was a spectacle. The police and public (including me) were absolutely outraged. When I shared the article with my bf expressing my shock at how a) sick it was no one called police, b) sick it was to record, and c) sick it was to not physically intervene, esp. when you have MULTIPLE people to back you up and NO indication the assailant was armed... my bf said he is conflict-avoidant and would not have intervened, though he would've called police. I said calling police is even less than the bare minimum and decent people SHOULD have acted (even if it's not the law, it's the moral thing to do). For reference, my bf is 6/7, 235 lbs but not violent at all (nor am I, but I'm 5'2, 100 lbs and have intervened to stop a rape in the past, despite risk to myself, and know I'd do it again if I had to). I was disgusted in him, thought about it for 2 days, and basically said he's a coward and I can't be with a man over 2x my size who would not help an overpowered woman. I said esp as a larger male he should help as gendered violence by men against women can only be stopped when there are more good men willing to use their strength for good, than bad men abusing it for bad... That's what a true ally looks like (and I'm not even an ultra-feminist).
He admitted it was cowardly and selfish but just how he was raised. He added he just can't relate to how horrific rape is (and how it's much diff. than other types of assault) because he's a man. I said that's no excuse, and he should have empathy. I ended things just now on the phone but am wondering if there is any way to use this as a learning lesson, or if it's time for a clean break as we are too different.
tl;dr broke up with bf who is 6'7 235 lbs who said he wouldn't help a woman being taken advantage of in public by an unarmed abuser because he "avoids conflict" and I see that as cowardly and unacceptably immoral since I myself have intervened as a 5'2 100lb woman and was scared but had to act. What could I have done to salvage this if at all?
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2021.10.22 22:26 Flaccidspasm Here's why I, a pre everything MTF transgender, do NOT think the earlier seasons of IASIP were transphobic. Not that anyone asked.

TLDR: it's not transphobic just because someone got upset.
This will more than likely get buried (do all posts that say that make it to the front page these days?), but I just wanted to give my opinion on this. I speak only for myself and did not ask for LGBTQ+ support or opinions on anything here.
I'll get to it.
I'm sure we can all agree that this show is, for lack of a better word, brilliant. People complain it's mostly yelling and leaving the bar unattended for shenanigans, but its so much deeper than that.
What do we know about The Gang? Well let's see, they're absolutely fucking horrible people...? Even before the "tranny" episode (Charlie Has Cancer) we know plenty about these Neanderthals. In the first episode, some are blatantly racist from pretty much start to finish. We learn in one episode that they will betray each other, be openly racist for shocks and giggles, and Mac will try to get Dennis raped. I'm leaving out plenty. You get it. The list goes on and on. And past that episode, one that comes to mind, is locking living beings in a burning apartment.
We just accept shit like that and lying about molestation and "I should fashion your skin into a lampshade" or whatever it was exactly, but you can't joke about a trans person? THAT'S the one thing off limits? Wat. And why? Who decided for everyone that getting your dick cut off can't be joked about, but murder and "this time you are related...because she's your sister" and "I hope you get raped" are just inherently funny?
Look. I want to change my entire gender, go through another puberty (and trust me the first one sucked,) and forget that I ever had a penis. If you can't find some kinda humor in that, idk what's wrong with you.
Do I want to be called a tranny? No. Do I encourage hate speech on my or anyone else's behalf? No. Did I even watch the Chappelle special? No. But I do like to laugh. I know with all that's going on, everyone is all "people can't take jokes" or "trans people are so sensitive," but if you say something funny, I'm going to laugh. And Mac walking up to this girl meant for his friend with cancer and saying "Is that a penis in your pants?" and her responding instantly and with confidence "Yes" gets me every single time and then she's suddenly meant for him. Again, I don't speak for the masses, but that is hilarious. He goes on about how she lied to him and she's like no I didn't and I'm laughing just typing this. Then when she's like "you couldn't handle it anyway" and he lays down with a big smile because he's big tough Mac omg that shits funny.
This show is literally showing you the worst people and telling you not to be like them unless you're a garbage pail person. Don't use the word tranny. Don't say racist shit. Don't be so goddamn self centered that all that matters is you to the point where you'll ruin someone's life, lock them in a burning building and then just say "I don't know what you're talking about" when confronted with your past. I honestly don't know why people don't see that.
Don't try this at home. Don't do what they do on t.v. This show is funny education. And if it's transphobic, then it's also racist and misogynistic and ungodly and not meant for young children.
Besides, they apologized. If I would have been mad, a simple apology is fine.
Being trans is scary and for me I've often felt very alone and have tried so hard not to be what I am. It's fucking tense. I get why people get offended. And totally understand why it seems hateful at first glance. But if we can laugh at everything else offensive, "is that a dick?!" isn't off the table. If anything, it's more jokes about how insecure Mac is about his sexuality and how awful they all are. I for one miss Carmen. And Mac pointing out the ignorance of some people. But I do love the send off she was given.
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2021.10.22 22:26 Maaaawp Dumb question about writing credit division that’s probably been asked before!

Okay, so I’m the singer in a band, we started writing a few months ago. Usually our bass player comes up with an idea, tracks it out by himself (bass, drums, and guitar) in protools and sends it to me, where I write a melody and lyrics. I assume this is a 50/50 split as far as the songwriting credit goes.
My question is: if I start (with my shitty and simplistic guitar playing) writing songs - chords lyrics and melody - then get my band (4 other folks) to change up the rhythms, add solos, a bass-line, maybe even change the progression if it stinks, how much of the song is still “mine” at that point?
I don’t expect anything major to come out of these tunes haha I’m honestly just curious.
Thanks for your time!
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